God Doesn’t Make One-Armed People!

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My name is Amber! I’m the founder of I AMputee and this is my story. ๐Ÿ™‚

Fall semester of my freshman year of college I was a tutor at one of Wesleyan’s manyย after school programs.

During the winter, we sat down ย to make paper snowflakes to decorate the windows of our center—an activity that I thought would be the perfect end to a fun-filled afternoon. ย Oh, how I wasย wrong .
As I’m sitting at the table, there’s this one five year-old girl going on and on about something. I mean she was really letting someone have it….that someone just so happened to be me.
“Someone here doesn’t belong,” She started.
ย  In an effort to stop her in her tracks, I ignored her. That was a FAIL.
She continued, “Everybody knows One-Armed people can’t make snow flakes.”ย *Mind you, I was indeed making a snow flake, and an impressive one at that.*
Again, I ignored her.
Then the s*** hit the fan.
She looked at me and said, “Everybody knows, God doesn’t make One-Armed people!”
Initially, I wanted to rip up her snow flake, blow the confetti in her face, and tell her mama I did it. Now, in retrospect, I actually still want to make it rain pieces of her crooked little masterpiece, but I also want to ask the others around me why they didn’t intervene. Why didn’t the other 7 or 8 people sitting beside me join in with me as I told this little girl why her words just weren’t okay? Was it because deep down in their subconscious minds that somewhere they believed the same thing?
Now, I know that no one in their politically correct minds would own up to thinking something like that, but consider this: When someone encounters an amputee they usually ask
“What kind of accident were you involved in?”
Because an accident, karma, some force we can’t control had to have intervened with some divine creation. Being that I was actually born an amputee, should my answer then be
“Birth. Birth was the accident I was involved in, it was all so tragic.” ???
Throughout my mother’s entire pregnancy, everything was normal. ย Ultrasounds, tests, other blah blah scientific stuff-it was all normal. So who’s to say I wasn’t supposed to be born this way?
American society says so all the time through the media. ย  I’ve never seen a mainstream fashion ad with an amputee. No amputees on mainstream commercials. No dolls or amputee toy soldiers for children (even with pregnant Barbie and Transformers). ย The only time we usually make it in movies is for something zombie ridden or gorey.
Why is that?
Because, ย the greater public believes that people aren’t supposed to look like me. They believe that amputees are the broken toys of society that should be hidden from view unless there happens to be some special occasion. ย For instance, you’ll often see some amputee running a marathon, winning a wrestling match, driving with no hands, or defying the odds in some way. While these are all wonderful accomplishments, they don’t allow room for the expression of our humanity.
In starting I AMputee, I hope to create a safe, healthy environment for people who identify with such experiences. For once, I want to be part of a community that promotes positive, sexy, adorable, hilarious, eccentric, and other images of people who look like me. ย I want to help connect amputees with people, so that together we can laugh, cry, or scream through the tough stuff we deal with every day.
I AM Human. I AM Inspired. I AMputee.
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70 thoughts on “God Doesn’t Make One-Armed People!

  1. We as a people are proud of you and what you stand for. Thank you for everything you’re doing and continue to fight for what you believe. You are breed from a rare type of people. Thank you for keeping hope for all of us alive

  2. Shannon Adams

    Amber words cannot explain how amazing I think you are! Your light is so genuine and so bright it was a while before I noticed you were an amputee! Continue to share your journey inspiring others to embrace who God created them to be!

  3. Anthony Thompson

    Amber,

    Know that God made the perfect YOU!!! We ALL have some sort of handicap, some visible others not. You speaking about yours will help bring comfort to those who are uncomfortable about theirs.

  4. christopher Bryant

    I am blown away by this inspirational piece of work. I support fully and can truthfully say I agree with every word. I am proud to know you and call you friend.

  5. Niecy

    I love how you wrote this. It was all perfectly said and worded and I could kind of feel how you felt when it all happened through your writing. I do not see many amputees besides on tv (maybe 7 in my whole life) but they were all older people who lost them due to illness or injuries so I do feel like that naive person that would ask “How did you lose your …” . Very glad I read this because it helped inform me on alot of things.

  6. Jasmine Davis

    This is awesome I look up to as a beautiful person inside and out I love you. In my eyes you are the best
    Love , jasmine Davis

  7. Pam Haskins

    Amber, since the day I laid eyes on you in the 9th grade I knew there was something special about you. During the first week of high school you told your story to a group of total strangers before we could ask any dumb questions. You were never depressed, helpless, whiney, or other-wise self deprecating AT ALL! Full of vitality, you won everyone’s heart AND respect! I will NEVER forget in World Lit class one day (we were making a stuffed globe for my bulletin board) you made the most beautiful and intricate addition to the project. I have to be honest, I had my doubts about how you would tackle the assignment but to my utter satisfaction you outworked EVERYBODY! From that point on, I had no doubts, no fears, no questions about the solid work ethic and depth of character of Am-BREEZY! So glad to see you and to hear of the great works you are involved in. You have a magnanimous spirit and I am so proud to know you!

    • Wow. Thank you Mrs. Haskins. Your words mean so much in so many ways. I’m so grateful for all the support and encouragement you’ve given me throughout the years that I’ve known you. ๐Ÿ™‚

  8. Symone Turner

    Hey Amber!
    I don’t know if you remember me but I wanted to say Thank you! I was sitting here thinking about how bad my situation is and not thinking about the situation I’m not in.Thank you for making me realise that my situation could be worse. Stay Beautiful!

  9. Gabrielle "Gabe" Clinton

    I LOVE THIS AMBER!! SINCE I HAVE MET YOU, YOU HAVE ALWAYS BEEN BEAUTIFUL. INSIDE AND OUT. IT’S AMAZING HOW YOU MAKE EVERY SITUATION A POSITIVE LEARNING EXPERIENCE. I HAVE NEVER REALLY SEEN YOU UPSET AND YOU MAKE EVERYTHING AND EVERY ONE. AROUND POSITIVE!!! LOVE YOU AMBER

  10. Ms Dana

    Beautifully stated Amber!! I used to tell ur mom that there was something very special about you when u were little.You were positive and outgoing. Your sister was right you were born as GOD intended. And we all know HE makes NO mistakes!! You are a very beautiful, smart, outgoing young lady. Keep up the great work. The LORD has his hands on you. Luv U

  11. Ann Roney

    I think you are meant for great things, Amber. You certainly do not let challenges stop you from doing whatever it is you want to do. In a word, you are an “inspiration”. An inspiration to us all. My best to you in your endeavors to educate people about how to treat other people.

  12. David McCracken

    Hi Amber,
    We met briefly yesterday at Spaulding Rehab hospital. Just wanted to touch base. I’ve been an amputee for 44 yrs and never have I read more accurate, precise feelings, explanations, does and don’t that hit it on the head more genuinely than what I just read by you. It is my pleasure to have met you. And hope to stay in touch with your new site taking off!
    My Best to you,
    Dave McCracken

  13. Preston B. Denson

    I am proud to say you were a student of mine. Congratulations and I shall definitely stay in touch with you and help out whenever, wherever and however I can.

  14. Patrick Neavin

    One thing I will say is that, after looking at your pics, your are very beautiful. I have yet to find an amputee who isn’t ๐Ÿ˜‰

  15. To all amputees! Do not let shallow judgemental people bring your spirits down. Anybody who was raised w/God in their lives will not judgment you,but see you as equal as anyone else. If you /anyone are interested in some fun relaxing outdoor recreational therapy, plz call or txt 602/576/7125. God Bless to all๐Ÿ˜†

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